yeah, what now?
Mar 21
Ultimately, we all reach a certain point in our lives where we’d stop for a bit, ruminate about the future, reflect on the past and then, choose the best route for the present. This year is THAT year, where every decision has to be made with a lot of care and precision, because once made, a new set of possibilities will follow, whether I like it or not, and I’ve to live them all until another fork in the road of life appears again.
I must admit, I have really lived it up. I’ve seen plenty of places, done many things, experienced what it was like to be poor and rich, let wanderlust run its course and have literally covered from the skies to the seas. I don’t regret the experiences, not for even an iota. In fact, I’m grateful for them for they have strengthened my spirit and made me grow up. I’ve learnt to see my own weaknesses and strengths during times of solitude and hardships. I’m always surprised to discover my capacity to endure and go on, despite perpetual blows and rejection. I’ve learnt the value of money, independence and love, and to peel away the layers of ignorance and illusion.
But then, what now?
Many travelers and couchsurfers that I’ve met, upon finishing their life-altering journeys, are often found back in their countries, doing the same things that they’ve always been doing, be it that corporate job that they’ve given up right after they sold properties and reduced their lives to a backpack, or to pursue another qualification, to get married and have kids, etc. Does that mean that other than accumulating perspectives and worldly wisdom, we don’t actually change much? Is long-term traveling over-rated then?




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Comment by meijoon on April 14, 2010 at 8:07 pm
Can’t help but to want to comment on this post… from the day you pen down that you’ve resigned and will be backpacking Indochina… as I follow your trail to all over the world…. sometimes i can feel that, you’re just living a life of dreams, one fine day you will wake up to reality.
Just like how a good meditation guru would advise his student, when they come for 2-3 months retreat in some cosy corner of the world, tucked away from their hustle bustle city life…. that you should go home, and not spend 1-2 long years in retreat although the experience in a retreat is soooo good, its better to go home to the real world AND put in practise what we’ve learnt from the retreat.
Back to my original point, when I see ying plan about her next trip and get excited about the next destination… oh wowww its super kickass & wonderful & extra-ordinary… but what if all that ying loves to do is stripped away, when ying stop going places, who is ying?
Will ying be contented with self?
Try this… if ying will not be happy returning home, maybe ying can write like a journalist covering stories of the plight of the hardcore poor in africa, or write to fight for injustice, or write to save the oppressed victims, … TRAVEL & WRITE for a purpose… for a cause! For freedom! For humanity!
I found a saying on a Sukhihotu shirt a long time ago… which reads “The Purpose of Life is a Life of Purpose”
Comment by Ying on April 14, 2010 at 8:43 pm
Hi Mei Joon,
Thanks for dropping by. I’d just like to say that, I don’t think I’ve been living a life of dreams….I think I’ve just lived a different reality– a reality that not many people dare choose. Having said that, I’m ready to choose another reality for myself once more. My previous wanderings have laid down some solid foundation to make a real change and to continuously progress both spiritually and emotionally.
Yeah, kick ass places are no longer the priority on my list. I’ll be going back to writing and sharing. We’ll see what happens after.
Comment by pak horn on April 15, 2010 at 8:51 am
sayang, thats not sukhi hotu saying. thats late chief’s saying.
ying, come home. its time. we can chat more.
Comment by Ying on April 15, 2010 at 6:23 pm
Yup, it’s definitely to catch up with friends and family in Malaysia. I’ll be home soon.
Looking forward to seeing everyone again.